Introduction
I was thinking about time management, and I remembered a concept
that was on the tip of my tongue, but I could not quite articulate it. This led
me on a search, and what I discovered were some notes I made in May of 2022
from reading the book 4000 hours by Oliver Burkeman. The following is my
attempt to flesh out my notes into something more readable. But if you have time,
I urge you to read the book, it is excellent.
Summary
- It is natural to never get to the end of your to-do list.
- Slow down.
- Be discerning about the tasks we do.
- We need to be more choosey about what we take on.
- Celebrate not being able to do it all and say no to most things.
- What we achieve is down to chance.
- Pay yourself first.
Delusion
Are we deluding ourselves? Will we ever get to the bottom of
our to-do lists? We all have a finite
life and as a society we are trying to cram in more and more, we aim to be
highly efficient and be as productive as possible. This goal of becoming our
most efficient and effective self’s is draining the joy out of life.
It seems to me that the more we tick off our to-do lists the
bigger and not smaller our lists get. This paradox tells us that we need to
admit defeat and acknowledge we will never get everything on our to-do list
done. If you had a fairy godmother who could magically disappear all the things
on your to-do list, then miraculously by the end of the week your list would be
just as full as it was before the magical intervention occurred. What we need
to do is change our relationship with the things we have on our lists.
Slowing down and being more discerning
Time is an abstract concept. We split our life up into
buckets of time that do not actually exist. This process of putting time into
buckets is the source of our stress. A large number of us measure our
self-worth by the number of things we can tick off each day. This act of
speeding through our lists is an act of avoidance, we are trying to ignore our
fears.
But it is impossible to master time, we will never complete
everything on our lists and most of the tasks we complete aren’t going to make
any difference to the grand scheme of things. Taking control of your list is
not done by speeding up, but by slowing down and being more discerning about
what we do.
Oliver Burkeman said that the paradox of limitation is the
more you try to manage your time to get the feeling of total control, the more
empty and frustrating life gets. But the more you confront the fact we have
limited time and work with it the more meaningful our lives can become.
The only power is choice.
Busy, we all have too many things to do than we can fit into
the available time. Not being able to fit it all in is making us feel
overwhelmed. To make matters worse we should not feel guilty for not fitting in
everything, but we do.
Efficiency is a trap, the better our productivity system is
at giving us time the more we fill it with more and more tasks. This is the
effect known as Parkinson’s law, our jobs expand to fill the available time. All
this means is we live under the illusion that one day we will get everything done.
The only thing we can do is choose. We can only choose to do
a few important things and deal with the fact that the other things will not
get done. Our life is finite and this means we can only do a finite amount of
things. Our only power is choice.
Celebrate finitude.
I like the word finitude. It reminds us to make the most of
our time and appreciate the fleeting moments that we have. Finitude is the quality
of being finite or being limited by bonds or scope. This means that every time
we make a choice to do something (or not do something) we define who we are.
If finitude did not exist and life went on forever, there
would be no need to make any choices and life would stop having meaning. The
fact that we cannot do everything is therefore something to be celebrated because
it makes us unique and gives us a reason to make the most of our finite time.
Get better at not doing things.
The point of a time management system is not to get better
at doing things, but to get better at not doing things. If we accept we can not
do it all, then we need to stop acting as if we can. We need to stop feeling guilty
about what is not getting done.
We need to commit to a few things and achieve them. This needs
to be done in a way that does not leave us riddled with guilt. The three best strategies
for doing this are:
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Pay yourself first: Schedule time to get
your pet projects done first.
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Limit your work in progress: Only have
three active tasks open at any one time.
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Resist middle priorities: Focus on your top
five priorities and ignore the rest.
Enjoy Boredom.
Stop wasting time. We are all easily distracted, but the
distractions are stealing our time. In the end watching the cat video on YouTube
will not make us more fulfilled, this type of activity will just waist precious
moments of our life that we can never get back.
What we focus on will change how we experience it. This
means if we focus and work harder at something we find boring in the end we
will come to love it. Don't resist the pain of being bored, work through it.
Ironically sometimes the solution to boredom is just to accept that sometimes
we will get bored, live with it.
It's all down to chance.
Hofstadter law - It always takes longer to do something even
if you take into account Hofstadter law. This is a conundrum! It means it is
good to plan but ultimately our plans are meaningless. In fact, our plans are a
way of giving certainty to what can never be achieved.
We do not have time, we are time. Our desire for certainty
is not something we can choose. What we ultimately achieve is all down to
chance. The outcome is outside of our control. We should therefore enter tasks
with the mindset of not really caring what happens in the end.
Live for today
We all know we have a finite amount of time. So why do the
groundwork for the future, when the future might not even come, and our plans
are no better than chance. We should stop living for the future and focus on
the now. We shouldn't study for a degree just to get somewhere in the future.
We should do it because in the here and now it brings us to life and determines
who we are. What happens in the future is then of no consequence.
We should treat every moment as if it is the last time, we
get to do something.
Conclusion
In the end what you do with your life doesn't really matter.
You can be sure the universe doesn't care one single bit. Every life is ordinary,
and this is good to remember when we feel things are getting too much for us. We
can use this thought as a kind of therapy to keep us sane when we face the
constant onslaught for our time and focus.
Focus on the things you can do now and only on the things
you can do now. Finitude is the only problem we have when you think about it. Just
focus on the next thing you must do right now. We don't need security we just
need to focus on the few things that count right now.
References
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Four
Thousand Weeks: Embrace your limits. Change your life. Make your four thousand
weeks count. (Audio Download): Oliver Burkeman, Oliver Burkeman, Penguin Audio:
Amazon.co.uk: Audible Books & Originals
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Parkinson’s law: Parkinson's law -
Wikipedia
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Hofstadter's Law:https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hofstadter%27s_law
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